Well done, then.
The book I want to read is one about reclaiming feminine pursuits, about how something like an obsession with fashion is only as vapid as something like an obsession with fast cars, but one seems much stupider than the other because it's stereotypically feminine. About how liking dolls is as (MORE, even) important and worthwhile as liking trucks. I want us to stop feeling like we have to justify our daughters by saying, Yes, she likes pink and pretend-cooking and art, but she ALSO likes pirates and bugs and dragons. Or, at least, I want it to stop feeling like we are justifying them, like we protesteth too much. I don't want to feel like the most socially interesting thing about Eleanor is her abiding fondness for dinosaurs, when she loves unicorns just as hard.
Who doesn't, though.
This is SORT of that. But it's more about how to think about and protect your children (daughters especially) from over-girlifying, in the negative sense. Over-princessing, over-Bratzing. And, unlike other books and articles I have read on the subject, instead of just being like, Talk to your daughters about why a Bratz doll is inappropriate (leaving me disinclined to use the phrase 'shameless street-walker' in front of a child but unsure how else to frame it), Wardy actually suggests rationale to offer. That doll's clothes doesn't look like she would be able to run and jump and play in them, and that's what we use our bodies for, to have adventures, so maybe let's try to find a doll who looks like she could keep up with you. That sort of thing.
And I had SO MANY PAGES bookmarked, because I'm just starting out on this. I'm only now realizing that I have to praise the strength of Eleanor's toddler legs as much as their adorable nommability (they are so nommable). We watch The Jungle Book and she loves the girl at the end, singing 'I will have a handsome husband, and a daughter of my own/And I'll send her to fetch the water, I'll be cooking in the home' and I'm like,
I will probably have to go buy this book, to keep it next to Cinderella Ate My Daughter and re-read them every year or so just to stay abreast.
ALL OF THIS TO SAY, I forget almost all of Redefining Girly because my brain is a sieve. But it is well worth a read, whatever the age your female offspring.